1000 Questions
For Couples Review

Reviewer: Sandy Williamson

Rating:

It’s surprising how often even people who have been together for some time, even years, don’t know crucial facts about their partner.

For example, I met a fellow once who only found out after he was married that his now wife had no intention of having children. Because they got along in so many areas and agreed on so many things, he never even thought to ask her about this important aspect of life while they were dating. The subject didn’t spontaneously come up during their courtship. He assumed that like so many women she would want to have children in marriage. She assumed that since he never mentioned it, having children wasn't important to him either.

Things like that happen more often than we think, and it's very unfortunate.

One positive statistic about relationships is that couples who date for more than a year before getting married have a greater chance of a successful marriage than those who marry sooner. While there may be many reasons for this, I think part of the answer is that the added time gives the couple a chance to get to know each other better, which makes relationship and marriage better.

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In general, I believe that the more we know about someone the better our relationship with them can be.

That’s why I was very curious to check out “1000 Questions for Couples.” As the name suggests, the book is a compilation of 1000 questions for partners to ask each other and answer. My question was “Can it really help a relationship.” This review is my answer.

Author and relationship expert Michael Webb wrote the book. Michael’s work has been featured in every major newspaper in the country and over 50 magazines. “1000 Questions” even led to an appearance on Oprah in 2003 (let’s face it – that’s every author’s dream and quite an endorsement).

Having gone through the book I can see why it’s attracted so much attention.

Everyone knows that it’s important for couples to communicate but few people have a clear idea of just how to do that. This book helps in a couple of ways.

Although Michael doesn’t mention it, I think that the process of a couple making the decision to use the book improves their relationship. Even if they don’t say so outright, making that agreement indicates that they’re interesting in really getting to know each other and deepening the relationship. That’s a major step right there.

Also, having the book as a virtual 3rd party makes it much easier to approach delicate or potentially sensitive subjects. After all, it’s not you asking the question, it’s the book.

The breath of topics covered, from the very serious to the silly, is very complete. Using this book will improve your understanding of each other viewpoint of every important aspect of life.

The structure of the book is very straightforward. It begins with a short (and very helpful introduction) on how to use the book for your own purposes. For example, the introduction suggests that if you’re just starting to date a person, it’s probably best to hold off on the questions about sex and marriage for a while (can you imagine how skittish that might make a guy if he had just started dating a woman?).

Also, it emphasizes that a person’s answers may change over time.

In short, the introduction gives some good advice.

Following the short introduction, the book dives right into the questions. They're organized by subject, and each section has a short introductory paragraph or two. Some of the topics included are: Favorites, Attractions, Health Food and Well-Being, Morals Convictions and Beliefs, Vacations, Love Romance and Date Nights, Car and Driver and many more.

I found that the questions were sensible, very well phrased and likely to be revealing without being incendiary.

I really can’t think of a reason no to get this book. I mean, how can finding out more about you partner’s viewpoints ever be a bad thing?

While it’s conceivable that using this book will save someone from investing time and emotion in a relationship that is ultimately doomed to failure, I think the most likely outcome is a deepening of a relationship, making it better and more meaningful than it already is.

Some times we may want to talk with our partner but not know how to initiate a conversation. The questions give you a non-threatening way to get started and start a dialogue.

I recommend this book highly. If you're interested in finding out more about it, click on the links below.

By the way, though this book is intended for couples already in a relationship it struck me as I was going through it that some of the questions would make great conversation starters for first dates. People do love to talk about themselves and you're asking a question give them a chance to do so.

Lots of the questions are cool and kind of fun. For example: "If you could live one year of your life all over again without changing a thing, what year would you choose? Why?" Or "If you were given $50,000 to throw a party for all your friends, what sort of party would you put together?"

There are 998 more where they came from :-)

 Click on the link below to check them out.

1000 Questions for Couples