Does My Ex Want To Get Back With Me? -
How To Tell

Very frequently after a break up the person going through it may notice that their ex is sending signals that might mean they’re interested if getting back together.

Maybe they do, or maybe the person is reading too much into things.

If this is happening to you it’s not surprising you’d be wondering “Does my ex want to get back with me?”

This can be a delicate situation and you need to be a little cautious. My best advice is to go slow. If anything tend to err on the side of being a little removed and not completely available.

Any significant relationship has its ups and downs, but most people in longer relationships have more ups than downs. A lot of times the break up was precipitated by a limited problem. When you’re apart, that the problems aren’t acutely there and pleasant memories can start to surface.

You probably have noticed that yourself. Your ex is probably going through the same thing. That may be why you getting some signals that they may be interested in getting together.

But be cautious. If you seen too eager too soon, you may trigger resistance. They may keep their distance because your eagerness creates the impression that you might try to push them into restarting the relationship and they aren’t completely sure that they want to

The better idea is to hang back a little. Don’t readily agree to any meeting your ex may want and don’t be too available.

Ideally in the early period after a breakup you’ve minimized contact. Now that you’ve done that, don’t be too eager to make too much contact too soon. Make it clear as subtly as you can that you’re having a fun, busy great life without your ex. You might be open to seeing them, but you’re not going to change any plans to do it. “No, I can’t meet you for lunch, I already have plans. If you want I could maybe meet you for coffee tomorrow afternoon.” Say that even if your only “plans” for lunch are a tuna sandwich at your desk.

Do you see how that works? You’re friendly, but not at their beck and call. You certainly are not chasing after them. That makes approaching you less threatening.

It also has the psychological effect of making you more desirable. People tend to want what they can’t have. It’s a powerful motivator.

Additionally, it’s one of the best ways to get an answer to the question ”How can I tell if my ex wants me back?” Here's why.

Your ex’s initial hints or flirting or indirect suggestions that they might be interested in getting back with you were probably pretty subtle. That’s why you were wondering what there intentions were in the first place.

They may not have even been sure what they wanted themselves.

Now that you’re playing a little hard to get and seem to be busy and doing fine without them, you’ve made yourself appear more desirable. Also, since you haven't responded to their more subtle overtures, you've placed them in a position where they have to make their intentions more obvious.

Which will be the answer to your question "Does my ex want to get back with me?"

The challenge now is what to do next. There are definitely some do's and don'ts at this delicate juncture.

I highly recommend The Magic of Making Up for great advice on the overall plan for healing your relationship.  You can read my short review of it at The Magic of Making Up - A Quick Review

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