What Can I Do To Get My Boyfriend Back
Part 2

In the first part of What Can I Do To Get My Boyfriend Back, I explained since what you're doing now isn't working (at all) you need to do something very different if you want to get your boyfriend back.

It may have sounded harsh but I told you to completely stop trying to make contact with him. At least for a while.

Do this and the odds are he'll be the one trying to connect with you. Here's why.

Why Trying Too Hard Doesn't Work

First, if you’re calling all the time, you’re basically letting him know that he still has control of you and that he could have you back anytime he wanted to.

Secondly, by still being in his life (even if only in the form of yet another pleading voice mail) you’re preventing him from experiencing life without you. Give him a chance and he will miss you.

But not if you're the whiny voice on his message tapes.

The other thing taking a step back does is let you get your act together.

Force yourself if you have to, but do fun things. Hang out with friends, visit museums, go for walks in the park, take long bubble baths. Whatever. Enjoy life and appreciate yourself.

Get your mind off you and your ex and engage in life. Hey, yeah, your relationship was cool and everything but... it wasn't the true epicenter of the Universe.

Really.

Explore.

As you do this, you’ll feel better.

Not only that, you’ll be more attractive to men, including your ex.

Imagine what might go through his mind when you stop trying to force yourself on him.

If you’ve been too persistent, at first he might feel relief. But that won't last too long.

Soon the realization that you may really be gone from his life will start to sink in. Since you're not being annoying now, he’s likely to start recalling all the good times you had together and how great it was when you were so deeply in love with each other.

If he happens to hear from mutual friends that you’re doing great and having fun and don't seem all that broken up without him, he’ll find himself thinking about you more and more.

A fact of psychology is that men tend to want what they can’t have. It may seem old fashioned, but the tactic of “playing hard to get” had some validity.

Again, I don’t want you to be manipulative, but I do want you to use human nature in your favor.

Remember you were asking “What can I do to get my boyfriend back?” This may not be the answer you were looking for, but taking a step back and getting perspective is what you need to do.

It’s basically get yourself together so you’re a complete, positive engaging woman that any man would want to be with. Conduct yourself in a fashion that lets a man, including your ex, know that they need to earn your attention.

The idea is for your ex to make the first move. He may call “just to see how you’re doing” or maybe he'll want to meet for coffee.

Be pleasant and polite but not gushy. Don’t rush to his arms immediately.

And Two Warnings

Here are a couple of things that may happen. Be careful.

He may call some day at the last moment asking for a date or just to get together.

If it's less that two days in advance (three if you're strong), your answer is “Gee, thanks for the invite, but I already have plans.”

Don’t agree to it even if you’re dying to go and your only plan is to clean your closet.

The unspoken message is that you have your own life now and you aren't available at his whim. He needs to approach you with respect and consideration.

And don’t be specific about what your plans are. Don’t say “I’m having a drink with Julie” or whatever. Just leave it at “I have plans” even if he specifically asks what you’re doing.

This creates something of an air of mystery about you. That's very alluring. It will engage his imagination as to just what you might be doing that's so much better than being with him.

He’s chosen to separate so he has no claim to know specifically what you’re up to.

The other time to say “no” is if you get a drunk dialing call.

He may be out having a few drinks, thinking about you, then missing you and decides to call to ask if he come over. Just say no to that. I don’t think I have to explain why.

Remember that the key to this strategy is to get male psychology working in your favor rather than against you. Can you see how the tendency to call and plead was working against you and how different the situation will be if you follow this advice?

The approach I’ve recommended here will not only get you feeling better, it will restore balance to your estranged relationship and give your ex a chance to remember why he fell in love with you in the first place.

Just take care of yourself, be whole and avoid smothering him.

Adding a bit of mystery and being slightly unavailable will help.

Before long you can expect him to be trying to win you back instead of the other way around.

The advice I've given you here is a good start. It will get things going in the right direction. But to keep things on track you need an overall strategy.

That's why I recommend The Magic of Making Up

I mean, I really like the title - making up is so wonderful - but what's really great is the content.

The guy who wrote the book is T W Jackson. His Bud's call him T Dub, but don't hold that against him -- he gives great advice.

I mean, I'm not sure how he does it, but he get's to the core of relationship issues in a down-to-earth way that I haven't seen anybody else do.

And his advice works!

I highly recommend you at least look into his course at

The Magic of Making Up

That page has great advice (check out the video pretty far down on the page) but one of the coolest things is the guarantee.

Here it is. (I "copied and pasted" the guarantee from the page.)

How can you go wrong with that? What would it be worth to you to get your (now) ex boyfriend back within 60 days?

I can tell you now that the training is incredibly affordable. If it works (and chances are that it absolutely will) it's a screaming bargain.

If for some reason your situation is different than the thousands of people this program has already helped, well... you're no worse off and you get your money back. No loss.

But truth is, that's not likely to happen.

Most likely you'll be back in your lover's arms.

Click on the image or the link below to check out the program:

The Magic of Making Up

Won’t it be great when your friends are wondering just what you did and are coming to you asking you "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back?"