Get Back at Your Ex
A Diabolical Approach Part 2
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Back at Your Ex - A Diabolical Approach Part 1, I began laying out a method of "revenge" based on the
saying that living well is the best revenge.
I want to continue with a few more suggestions on how to get back at your ex without
demeaning yourself.
3 - Have fun. Get out of the house and do things you enjoy.
This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends, get out and develop a social
network. I don’t suggest dating early on (things can be too emotionally messy in the early stages of a break
up) but being with other people is great.
Use this time to do things you enjoy that perhaps you stopped doing when you were with your ex
because of time constraints or they didn’t enjoy them as much as you did.
Not only will you feel better, you’ll be better able to move on if things don’t work out with
your ex.
However by failing to be crushed and miserable without them, you’re extracting a subtle
revenge. They may begin to wonder if they made a mistake splitting.
4 - Be your best self. You and your ex had a relationship for a
reason. There was a mutual attraction that had to do with who you are. Sometimes when we get into a
relationship, our partner sees too much of our not-so-good side, and let’s face it, we all have one. We’re
all a work in progress.
So take a look at yourself and live to your higher ideals. Be your best self.
Do this primarily for yourself, but when your ex notices you at your best it’s likely that
they’ll remember why they fell in love with you in the first place. That may be enough to start those old
feelings again.
I can guarantee you that won’t happen when they’re looking at slashed tires.
Summary
I think you can see now why I said this approach is based on the living well is the best
revenge.
There’s no downside to this approach.
You maintain your dignity and your honor. You deprive your ex of any ammunition they might
use to bad mouth you to others. If your friends hear your ex say something negative about you while they see
you behaving well, your ex’s comments look foolish and mean.
You also avoid the risk of feeling shame and regret later for having acted poorly. Worse
case, trying to get back at your ex in the wrong way could land you in legal trouble.
The real upside is that this approach takes care of you first and foremost. It
helps you regain your strength and control as quickly as possible in a difficult time. The person you become
in doing that is one to be respected.
As you do this, it may unfold that your ex had rekindled interest in you. It’s entirely
possible that you could get back together and experience a relationship at an even higher level because you’ve been
able to work through difficulties together.
Unfortunately, most of us aren’t very skilled at navigating this difficult time.
Why should we? -it’s not like we go through breakups everyday (thank heavens).
But you certainly aren’t the first to be in the position you’re in and you can learn from other
experiences.
There are a number of guides out there to help, not all as good as I’d like.
But there is one I can highly recommend: The Magic of Making Up.
Click on the image or text below to go to my (brief) review that book, and to find a link to a
page with more information about The Magic of Making Up. Be sure
to follow that link - there’s a short video that gives some great advice. It may save you from messing up big
time.
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