Get Back at Your Ex - A Diabolical Approach

Right now I’m going to give you a diabolical approach to get back at your ex.  This may not be what you’re expecting, but after you give it some thought I think you’ll appreciate the thinking behind this approach.

Going through a break up hurts, and sometimes the best of us can’t help but think in terms of revenge.     It’s understandable and completely normal.  And in some ways you should “get back” at you ex.  But like with everything, there’s a right and wrong way to go about it. 

The wrong way is mean spirited and nasty.  Going that route it lessens you.    It may feel good in the short term, but long term will prove to be different. 

No matter what terrible things your ex may have done, you don’t want to sink to their level.

The right way of getting back at your ex let’s you extract your revenge while being true to your highest principles and ideals.

I’m going to give you four tips on the right way to get back at your ex.

This advice is based on the old adage living well is the best revenge.

Think about it.  If you and your ex aren’t on the best terms right now, is it going to bother them more if they see you living in a mean-spirited way, acting like you're miserable, or if every time somebody mentions you they talk about how great you’re doing and how happy you seem?

You may be reading this looking for advice on how to sabotage your ex’s car or embarrass them in a crowd.  You may feel like doing that some of the time. 

Go ahead and fantasize about slashing all the tires and smashing all the windows on their car.  Just don’t actually do it. 

You’re bigger than that

Here’s what to do instead to get back at your ex:

1 - Stay strong.   Begging, pleading and otherwise looking desperate.  Repels.  It doesn’t attract.  Pleading for reconciliation leaves your ex in control and gives them power over you – you’re saying that they’re calling the shots.  Don’t let that happen.  Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on

2 – Cut off communication, or at least minimize it.  This may appear counterintuitive, especially if you’re hoping to rekindle your love.   However it’s one of the best ways to get back at your ex while at the same time increasing the chance of getting your ex back.

Close off communication and let him or her stew for a little while.  

By doing this, you’re taking control.  You’re giving the clear message that you’ll decide if and when you’ll speak with them.  This claims your control and implies that you’re doing fine without them.  Your ex may start to realize how valuable your relationship was and that it was nothing to take for granted.

In Get Back at Your Ex - A Diabolical Approach Part 2, I'll give you two move specific suggestions.  Right now, I hope you can see the general approach I'm suggesting.

In the early part of a break up there's a lot of hurt and emotions are raw.  If we're in pain, it's natural that we might want to lash out.  But if we do, we're often liable to do something we'll regret or actually be ashamed of later.

The really sad part is that often rash acts of spiteful revenge damage a relationship that could have been fixed beyond repair.

The approach I'm outlining here doesn't do that.  It both makes it most likely that your ex will regret the breakup and put you in a positive position if you decide you might want to get back together again.

If you think getting back with your ex is even a remote possibility, then I strongly suggest you take a look at my

Quick Review of The Magic of Making Up.

The Magic of Making Up

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