Heal Your Broken Heart

Get Over Your Ex Fast

On this page I want to teach you an extremely powerful technique that will let you get over your ex and heal your heartbreak in record time. I’ll warn you now that when you first hear about it, the technique may seem too simple to be effective.

I know that’s the way I felt about it. The danger in that is that you might not try it, which would really be too bad because this is one of the simplest and best ways to heal heartbreak quickly.

Actually, the technique you're about to learn is one of the best ways to deal with any emotional trauma, even ones that happened years ago.  This is not some airy-fairy technique that might only work for some people. There are numerous psychological studies proving its effectiveness.

For example, would you be interested in learning a technique that, when college students used it to diffuse emotional traumas from their youth (parents’ divorce, death of a grandparent etc.), it not only improved their sense of emotional well-being but also increased their grade point average  and decreased their number of visits to the student health service? That’s what one study showed.

Another study involved engineers who had been laid off. Engineers, mind you – talk about non airy-fairy types.

In this study, all the engineers had lost their jobs and all received the same out placement help with one difference.  One group was taught the method I’m about to teach you and another identical group wasn’t.

Six months later, over 60% of the engineers who used the technique had jobs at their old salary or higher while less that 19% of the engineers in the other group could say the same.

Interested in learning the method? I’m sorry to delay telling you about it but I wanted to give you some idea of its power so you might be motivated to actually give it a try.

How to Heal Your Heart Break (step 1):

Here’s one of the quickest ways to soften the emotional trauma of your breakup: write about it.

I told you it would seem too simple, but hold on. Let me tell you some of the specifics.

Psychologists call the type of writing I’m talking about expressive journaling and there are certain rules to follow to make it effective.  Here they are:

Commit to writing for 15 –20 minutes every day for five days in a row. Use a clock or timer to be sure you write for the entire period. Your total time investment will be less than 2 hours, and believe me it will be worth it.

Write constantly for the entire time. Constantly. Even if you have to repeat something you’ve already written, write continuously.

Writing To Heal Your Broken Heart

Here’s what you write about.

Write about the issue (in this case your break up, but remember you can use this technique for any emotionally charged problem) in this specific way. Write about the detail of what happened, what things have been like, what your hopes and aspirations were, what your disappointments were. Write what happened, and also write your responses, especially the emotions you felt and are feeling. Try to get it all on paper.

These writings are for you only. You won’t be showing them to anyone so feel free to be completely frank and honest, even vulgar if you want.

Again, I told you this would sound too simple to be effective, but give it a try. It really works. Here are a couple of other pointers.

When I first started using this method I was surprised at how quickly I would run out of things to write. When I was thinking about it, it seemed like this big, hairy awful deal, but once I started writing I realized that I had been like a dog chasing his tail, only with endless thought loops running in my mind. Getting them out on paper helped me get things in perspective and stop that foolishness.

Related to that, it is important to do this repetitively over the five days and to keep writing for the entire period. I’m not sure of the psychological reasons why that is important, but I do know that by day 5 I’m usually fed up with the whole thing. The intensity has been defused and I have a kind of “enough, already” attitude.

I like to do something fairly dramatic with the writings to destroy them. I have a fireplace and I like to burn them in there. It’s symbolic, but it helps me feel like I really got rid of the junk. Burn them, shed them or destroy them anyway that feels right to you.

Then go out and do something fun.

Definitely do this writing exercise to help ease the emotional distress of  a break up. You're doing it for your own benefit and not to accomplish some outside goal. However, the truth is that if you get your act together and are emotionally balanced you're in a much better position to possibly rekindle your relationship.

If that's what you want to do. If you think you might, check out this review of Second Chance Romance.

Second Chance Romance teaches you how to use psychological triggers and techniques to create almost ingestible attraction so be sure you want your ex back before you try this.

On the other hand, maybe you'll want the information to make you next relationship much better that the one you're leaving.

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