How To Get Your Ex To Return Your Calls
 Communication is key to any relationship, but how can you communicate when
you ex or soon-to-be-ex won’t even return your calls?
You’ll find the secret of how to get your ex to return your calls on this page.
The right words work like ‘magic’ to get your ex to call you back.
It is almost as if they cast a spell. Would you like to know what to say to do that?
I'll tell you in just a moment.
But first a couple of important warnings.
Warnings
The first is that in trying to get your ex to return your messages, what you don’t do is
almost as important as what you do.
The wrong words or set-up can completely eliminate the chance of hearing from your love
again.
Unfortunately, a lot of people do exactly the wrong thing. I’ll tell you what to avoid in just a
moment.
Also, getting your ex to return your call is only the first step.
If you don’t have an overall plan or strategy you may find yourself worse off than if they never
called back.
The Magic Of Making Up teaches some great follow-up strategies, so
go there if you need advice in this area.
Here’s What Not To Do
To Get Your Ex To Call You Back
Too many people make these mistakes when they leave a message for their ex. They sabotage
themselves without knowing it.
The first is begging.
No matter how desperate you feel and how much you long to hear your ex’s voice, it will do you
absolutely no good to plead.
A message like:
“Mary, I just HAVE to talk to you. Please, please, please call me.” makes you seem weak and
desperate. That’s never attractive.
It also fails to give your ex any incentive to call you (your desperate desire in not an
incentive).
The other common mistake is the “emergency ploy”.
You know how it goes.
“Jeff, this is an emergency. Really. Call me right away.”
They probably won’t respond to that, but if they do and find out that the only "emergency" was
your need to talk to them, you’re in worse shape than you were before.
Those are the two big mistakes to avoid. Now for what to do.
How to Get Your Ex to Return Your Calls
The important thing is to use psychology in your favor.
Two very power forces that you’re going to use are self-interest and
curiosity.
Either alone motivates powerfully. Together, they’re virtually irresistible.
Here’s what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME:
“Hi Mary, It’s Jeff. I want to let you know how much I appreciate what you did for me. Give
me a call because I want to thank you in person.”
Do you see how that works?
That call engages Mary’s curiosity. She’ll want to know what she did, what it is that Jeff
appreciates.
It also touches on her self interest. Who doesn’t like to be thanked and appreciated?
This call also has a positive tone that makes the idea of returning Jeff’s call much more
appealing. Jeff seems like a mature, appreciative guy.
Of course this script works just as well if Mary is calling Jeff.
And whether you’re Mary or Jeff, remember to deliver it in your best friendly, upbeat tone.
Very Important
Before you call, have something in mind something that she or he did that you truly do
appreciate.
It doesn’t have to be huge, but it does need to be believable and heartfelt. Insincerity here
will ruin the whole thing.
Even More Important
I will beg here. Please, please, please have a follow-up strategy before you call.
Using the script I just gave you, you can pretty much count on getting a call back and having a pleasant
conversation about what you appreciate.
But obviously, you want more than that. You want to fix the relationship.
You want to keep things going after you deliver your thank you.
To do that, you need a plan ready to go.
If you don't have a plan and want help making one The Magic Of Making Up lays out a great strategy you can follow.
Click on the link if you want/need to find out more:
That’s it.
You now have a proven approach to get your ex to return your calls.
But remember, it probably won’t work more than once or twice. And what you do before, during and after the call
is more important than getting them to return your call.
So have a plan BEFORE you pick up the phone or touch the keyboard.
Make sense?
Have a PLAN => The Magic of Making Up
Hope this helps.
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