How to Know When a Long-Term Relationship Is Over Part Two
In part one of How to Know When a Long Term Relationship Is
Over I told you that you should end any relationship that is physically abusive and also described
some factors to help you decide if your long-term relationship has a solid foundation to continue to build
Here are some additional factors to consider.
Relationship Factors to Consider
Do you consider your partner a resource and a source of strength and support?
To put it simply, what benefits do you get from the relationship?
All relationships are give and take, and no relationship is perfectly balanced, but any
relationship that is completely one sided won’t make it in the long term.
Another question: Do you share plans and ideas for your future together?
You don’t want to get into the classic commitment issue, but if a couple who have been together
for some time have absolutely no idea of a shared future, maybe the relationship should end sooner rather that
Do you have similar moral values? It would be very difficult to make a relationship work if the
people involved operated with it very different levels of integrity.
On the other hand, shared values and moral ideals can be a solid foundation worth building
I think the above give you some idea of what a relationship with no future looks like.
Fortunately most relationships, even ones that have gotten a little dull, don’t fall into that category.
Is Your Relationship Just Dull?
Much more commonly, a relationship falls into a rut
and routine robs it of its magic. It’s not that the relationship is bad, it just isn’t as fulfilling as both
partners had hoped.
To be blunt, the relationship has become a little dull.
The danger here is that the couple may drift further apart. Worse, one or the other of them may
be tempted to seek excitement outside of the relationship.
An ounce of prevention is worth much more than a pound of cure in this situation.
The Magic of Making Up aims to help separated couple’s reunite.
That’s great, but I think it is even more valuable to use the information in the Magic of
Making Up system to keep things from ever progressing to that point.
For example, how useful do you think it would be for each of you to know what men and women
really want from each other in a relationship?
Or the most skilled way to apologize?
They really should teach us this stuff in school, but since they don’t we have to do it on our
own. Check out the Magic of Making Up on your own and see if it doesn’t look a system worth