How to Overcome Jealousy

Jealousy is a negative emotion that is not only unpleasant to feel but also can destroy an otherwise loving relationship. It's important to know how to overcome jealousy if you want your relationship to last for the long-term.

The Relationship between Insecurity and Jealousy

Often jealousy is actually rooted in insecurity. A man or woman who feels completely confident and comfortable with themselves is very unlikely if their partner looks at or has a conversation with another person.

In the other hand, someone who feels unattractive, not smart enough or inadequate in some other way very well may feel threatened if the partner pays the least amount of attention to anyone else.

Unfortunately these feelings of insecurity can lead to a completely irrational response to a situation.

One aspect of overcoming jealousy then is to evaluate the possibility that maybe stemming from your insecurity and then work on dealing with that.

Fear of Loss and Jealousy

Sometimes a person feels jealous because they've experienced the loss of relationship in the past. They're on the lookout for any possible threat to their current relationship in an attempt to avoid another possible loss.

This often becomes counterproductive. The worry behavior is most stifling and attractive and can actually lead to the loss the person trying to prevent.

Need for Attention As a Cause of Jealousy

Obviously we all want attention from art romantic partner. Equally obviously, if we are to live a full and rich life we're going to have many relationships other than with our lover and spouse. These relationships include people at work, family members, social friendships, people in the community and so forth.

Most people also enjoy some time alone.

Just how much time in each relationship is right balance very tremendously from person to person. One person may desire extended periods alone and enjoy only a few special friendships. Another may be happier engaging in multiple different friendships and spending relatively little time alone.

Though we often think of jealousy as being jealous when your partner is paying attention to a member of the opposite sex, jealousy can have any number of objects. For example, a person can be jealous of their partner's work or their same gender friends. It depends on how much of their attention they think they need to feel happy.

This is a good subject for open communication between partners. Sometimes it may be that your partner has gotten too caught up in other activities and you deserve more of their attention.

At other times, it may be that your demands and expectations are unreasonable.

This is where an honest and loving discussion of each other's needs and desires can not only resolve the jealousy but help to deepen the relationship.

I hope these tips that help you figure out how to overcome jealousy. Of course there's a lot more to making a relationship work. I think the more we can find out about relationships and marriage the better chance of success we'll have with them.

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